Online dating do's and don'ts for men
The individual with BPD does not have an inner center; she does not know who she is.
Plus co-occurring disorders such as substance and eating disturbances, reckless spending and mood disorders add to the emotional burden.The film Fatal Attraction (quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close) and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.What do all the films and print stories have in common? Dating a person with BPD is not part of your deal – or so you thought.Remember you cannot make somebody happy – happiness is an inside job! My German grandmother used to say, “ Hope is the last to die.” Yes, certainly there is always hope yet – baseline behavior aka normalcy as you and experience it is a long hike away for people with BPD.
This contributes to the feeling of being emotionally drained in a partnership. The good news is that once in our thirties our energy level decreases naturally and hence even individuals with BPD will have less vigor at their disposal.
I use the pronoun his because more women are diagnosed with BPD; men instead earn the label antisocial much easier.